Kiss / Beso

(Pic is unrelated but super cute!)

I was putting Chloe to bed earlier – really late after a crazy few days sleepwise but that’s a story for another day! 

She wanted to go downstairs where abuela and babá were, but I told her we were not going, because it was late and time to sleep. As expected, she started crying, almost having a meltdown. 

I took a deep breath and reminded myself that a) her reaction is not personal (not directed at me but at the limit) and b) I am her mum, her source of balance and strength and love as well as limits.

So I simply told her ‘I can see you are sad because we won’t go downstairs. I am sorry but it is late’. And let her feelings be, not trying to calm her down or distract her or telling her off for feeling that way.

And guess what she did? She cried a bit more, came closer to hug me, kissed me, and slowly calmed herself down and went to sleep.

Sometimes all we need is someone to hear our feelings and to hold the space for them to exist.

(La foto no tiene nada que ver con la historia pero es monísima jeje)

Hace un rato estaba acostando a Chloe – súper tarde por la semana descontrolada que llevamos, pero esa es otra historia.

Quería bajar con la abuela y con babá, y le dije que no porque era muy tarde y ya había que dormir. Como era de esperar, empezó a llorar desconsoladamente.

Respiré hondo y me recordé que a) su reacción no es personal (es decir, no va conmigo sino con el límite que acabo de imponer) b) yo soy su mami, su fuente de equilibrio, fuerza y amor además de límites.

Así que simplemente le dije ‘Estás triste porque no vamos a bajar. Lo siento pero es muy tarde’. Y dejé que sintiera lo que necesitara, sin intentar calmarla, distraerla, o regañarla por sentirse mal.

¿Y sabéis lo que hizo? Lloró un poco más, se acercó a abrazarme, me dio un beso, y ya se terminó de calmar y se durmió.

A veces solo necesitamos a alguien que nos escuche y que deje que fluyan los sentimientos.

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